One of my favourite passages in all of fiction is in The Brothers Karamazov by Dostoyevski. I can almost hear the cringing -- but in truth he that most translations don't do him justice. In Russian, it's much easier to read and more easy-going...
(Book 5, Chapter 4). Ivan, the atheist intellectual criticises Christian forgiveness by telling a story of an estate-owner who had an 8 year old boy torn apart by dogs because the boy threw a stone at one of his dogs. Christianity would have some future moment of reconciliation (in the afterlife, to put it simplistically) where all is forgiven but Ivan doesn't want this.
"I don't want the mother to embrace the oppressor who threw her son to the dogs! She dare not forgive him! Let her forgive him for herself, if she will, let her forgive the torturer for the immeasurable suffering of her mother's heart. But the sufferings of her tortured child she has no right to forgive; she dare not forgive the torturer, even if the child were to forgive him!...I don't want harmony. From love for humanity I don't want it. I would rather be left with the unavenged suffering...And so I hasten to give back my entrance ticket...It's not God that I don't accept, Alyosha, only I most respectfully return him the ticket." (It's much more effective as the full passage not the snippet).
Unpopularly among atheists, I don't think the problem of evil is really a problem for religion. But what a magnificent way to state it! Nobody's done better. The passage highlights a more important point. Our society seems to believe in the psychological value of forgiveness. There's merit here but only to a point -- I reckon it's exaggerated in western society because of its Christian background. As a case in point, there are plenty of Christian views that crimes against humanity should be forgiven.
Of course if it makes victims feel better they should do it -- who am I to dictate what to do to someone who's gone through something unimaginable? Nut I think it's a huge mistake. Like Ivan's mother embracing her son's torturer, it makes the whole concept of humanity meaningless. The Brothers K has the very famous line if there is no God then everything is permitted, I reckon instead if everything's forgiven, everything's permitted [and meaningless]. We have no right to forgive the Armenian genocide, Holocaust, Rwandan genocide etc. Not forgiving affirms something positive, a kind of dignity about people. Or is that a paradox?
Dostoyevski was of course a religious fanatic whose favourite thing was putting a strong opposing case into the mouths of his atheist characters and then refuting it (in this case through the saintly character of Alyosha). This one has Dostoyevsky in a bind -- he can only pull himself out by pretending (like Baron Munchausen).





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So when it comes to genocide, who actually gets up and says that everything is forgiven?
I saw this episode of South Park where Randy (Stan’s dad) got in trouble for saying “Nigger” on Wheel of Fortune. He went and apologised to Jesse Jackson. The next day at school, Stan tells Token (the black kid) that everything is OK, because his dad appologised, but of course Token wouldn’t accept it, saying that Jesse Jackson isn’t the emperor or black people.
So how exactly do you apologise to such a large group of the population, and who can actually forgive you?
Good point — of course nobody can forgive you. But certain Holocaust survivors have gone public with statements that they have forgiven the Nazis (to the mass booing of other survivors). For a more sober approach see this book summary: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Sunflower:_On_the_Possibilities_and_Limits_of_Forgiveness
The point of forgiveness is not to make the other to feel better, but quite the contrary- to make yourself feel better. Because to forgive means to accept the past and to cut your connections with it. To release the energy of the blame, the guilt and the pain and to move on. I don’t see anything bad in this.
The crimes against the humanity cannot be forgiven. They can just be put in the past where they belong and to move on.
I don’t mean to underestimate the victims and the survivors of any of those you listed. But I don’t approve people that identify themselves only with the past. That live for the past. The past is just a lesson we all learned, but our life is today and we have to live it today.
And I don’t like people that see everything in life trough the prism of one quality-like that of a black person among racist or something similar. It’s one to be immediate victim or fighter for something and something other to define all your life trough this single thing. Life is so much more. And there are many more fights to be fought.
But anyway, your post is great and welcome to blog explosion.
Thanks for the comments Deni — perhaps I didn’t make myself clear, I was talking about the narrow definition of forgiveness (being something like “the pardoning of past misdeeds”). It is this trend which I think is wrong — of course moving on is incredibly important lest the atrocity keep occurring in your head continuously.
I guess the challenge for victims is moving on without pardoning. I think most manage to do this.
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